EPISODE 329

The Feedback Habits That Hurt (And the Myths That Made Them Seem Like a Good Idea)

Biggest Takeaways You Don't Want to Miss:
  • The ‘get into 10 classrooms a week’ rule has you chasing visibility over impact.
  • Feedback that gets implemented is more important than feedback that gets documented.
  • Asking vague questions like “What do you think went well?” even when the teacher is clearly struggling is like handing a drowning person a mirror instead of a life vest.
  • Starting with a compliment doesn’t soften the blow. It softens the feedback. The highest compliment you can pay a teacher is to treat them like a professional and share the truth.
  • We’ve lost the plot when it comes to giving feedback to teachers. We treat it as a chore rather than a lever we can use to achieve our 100% vision for our school. 

We’ve all been handed the same tired feedback advice: “Start with a compliment.” “Ask a reflective question.” “Get into 10 classrooms a week.” It sounds good on paper, but in practice, it’s leaving school leaders frustrated and teachers unchanged.

In this episode, I’m calling out the most common feedback myths we’ve been told, unpacking why they don’t work, and showing you how to break free from them.

If you’ve ever felt like your feedback was landing flat—or worse, backfiring—this episode will help you see why, and what to do instead. Let’s bust some myths and start giving feedback that actually makes a difference #LikeABuilder.

Check out these highlights:
  • Why the feedback strategies you were taught might be setting you up for resistance, confusion, or stonewalling.
  • What common myths like “glow and grow” and “just ask reflective questions” are really doing to your feedback conversations.
  • How shifting away from checkbox habits can lead to feedback that actually moves practice forward.
  • The simple mindset shift that helps you stop giving generic feedback and start giving growth-driving feedback #LikeABuilder.
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